wE'Re AlL mAd HeRe

Anxiety, Social Anxiety, Panic… and the rest!

Mind Media Awards #VGMmindawards

First of all, I’d just like to say a HUGE thank you to all of you who have donated to.. well err me, or rather my blogging via https://www.patreon.com/weallmadhere?ty=h – Without meaning to steal Tesco’s slogan, every little really does help. I’m blessed with an awesome community of followers and I’d like to send you all a big northern style bear hug.

Last night was the Mind Media Awards and I was lucky enough to be invited. Where to be a begin? Not to use a cliché, but it was an emotional rollercoaster.

For starters I was sh**ing myself because I hadn’t been given a +1, (genuinely not a problem as I knew that space was limited). However this did mean that I had to go on my own. That’s right, the girl with Social Anxiety and Panic Disorder went to a party where she didn’t know ANYONE alone. On paper it had all the elements of a horror story, but I was determined to focus on the positives. Everybody there would be a supporter of mental health, so surely it would be the one place where I could be myself 100%, without worrying about what others might think.

I won’t lie, on arrival I seriously wanted to bolt. The room was a sea of strangers, already stood in groups and chatting animatedly. The negative thoughts began their attack:

  • Who’s going to want to speak to you? You’re nobody.
  • Most of the people here have serious mental conditions, you’re just a fake.
  • You should leave now before you embarrass yourself.  

The panic attack hit me like a double decker bus. I began to sweat and tremble, my brain screaming at me to leave immediately. Also, my mouth was drier than the Sahara  desert, so how on earth could I hope to have a conversation with anyone? I HATE panic attacks, the anxiety I can welcome to a certain extent but panic will always be a challenge, because it’s so aggressive. BUT – like many times before I didn’t fight it. I let the feeling of terror crash over me like a wave and promptly went to the toilets to do some ‘belly breathing’ in private. After five minutes I’d regained my composure and decided that if I at least approached one person then the evening will have been a success and I could be proud of that.  GAME ON.

The first person I spoke to was Victoria Macdonald.. who just happened to be one of the judges AND the Health & Social Care Correspondent at Channel 4 News. (BOLLOCKS). However, to my relief she was absolutely lovely and we had a good chat about the importance of blogging and being open in the media about mental health.

As I was wondering over to the bar (again) I heard “Claire!” and a smiling chap introduced himself as one of the nominated bloggers for an award, I’d tweeted him earlier that day. So I had the opportunity to speak to his team and family, which was fantastic.

Anyway enough about me, let’s talk about the awards! Jo Brand was our host for the evening. With her ten years’ experience working as a psychiatric nurse and wicked sense of humour I don’t think they could’ve picked anyone better. Her overall message was simple “it’s ok to ask for help,” she was just plain awesome. I also loved her steel toe capped trainers!

Jo2

She gave a fascinating speech about her days on the psychiatric wards and how important it is that local authorities are educated about mental illness. She told us a story – a man was brought into the hospital with a dead pigeon is his mouth, he’d been found running around a grave yard. By this point his face was purple, as he was clearly suffocating. After Jo and the other nurses had removed the pigeon and admitted the man, she asked the police officer on duty why they hadn’t removed the bird. “We did, but the mad f**ker was making such a racket that we shoved it back in again!” – He clearly thought this was hilarious… but for Jo it highlighted just how distorted police views on mental illnesses were.
Things have changed since then, but it’s important to reinforce the message.

I wish that I could mention everyone, but I’d need to write a 20,000 word dissertation (which I did for my MA and it nearly killed me).

So here are my shout outs:

Claire Greaves – a beautiful and truly inspiring young lady. She writes about her experiences with Anorexia and the importance of Mental wellbeing. She also gives talks.
https://mentalillnesstalk.wordpress.com/
Claire was given special leave from the hospital to attend the awards. When we met she gave me a hug I had to fight back the tears. Very brave girl, who’s honest and not afraid to be vulnerable.

Claire G

Laura Lejeune – Vlogger who aims to be “the (internet) big sister I never had.”
https://www.youtube.com/user/Downtownpatrol
She doesn’t pull any punches when it comes to depression and self-harming, but she’s also incredibly relatable and warm. Not to mention the awesome pink hair that I really want but haven’t got the balls to do!
Seeing as I’d been stalking tweeting her, she kindly posed for a photo with me. Thank you Laura! Sorry if I freaked you out by saying – “oh that’s your boyfriend over there, I recognise him from your videos” *CRINGE*

Laura

The Mental Blocks – a really cool and quirky blog that highlights mental health situations via lego!
http://www.thementalblocks.com/
This is the guy who rescued me from standing alone at the bar, (so naturally I love him already). The blog’s main characters are Nick and Amy, who I was honoured to meet!

Blocks

The final person I would like to mention is Jonny Benjamin who appeared in the documentary http://www.rethink.org/get-involved/campaigns/finding-mike-film
On 14 January 2008 Jonny Benjamin went to Waterloo Bridge to take his own life. A stranger, ‘Mike’, stopped him that day and changed his life forever. Six years later, in conjunction with Postcard Productions, we launched a campaign to find the stranger on the bridge who came to his aid – Mike actually turned out to be Neil Laybourn and they both received the ‘Making a Difference’ award. Jonny’s acceptance speech was simple, but powerful – he addressed It solely to Neil and said -“You didn’t have to stop… but you stopped. Your unwavering faith in me saved my life.” I don’t think there was a dry eye in the house.

Jonny2

Jonny’s story prompted me write more about something that I’m often guilty of shying away from – Suicide. Nobody should have to deal with that alone.

It was an inspiring evening. I was honoured to be invited and to meet so many wonderful and kind people. Furthermore I’m pleased to report that none of the following happened:

  • I fell on my face
  • S**t myself
  • Consumed too much of the free wine.
  • Accidentally insulted someone
  • Made a fool of myself (I don’t think)

SUCCESS!!
To read more, have a look on twitter at the hashtag #vgmmindawards

Here are some more photos from my solo night out.

Categories: Anxiety

Tags: , , ,

8 replies

  1. What an amazing evening! You did great going it alone and such wonderful, inspiring people to be with! Loved this 🙂

  2. Brilliant stuff, Claire! Well done for going and I’m so glad it went well!
    PS Pure love is never naff 🙂

  3. Brilliant. I’ve had so many of those “what the hell am I doing here?” Feeling when walking into a crowded room alone,mand that was before I found out I was I’ll. So good on you. And congrats for being invited! On the subject of random strangers, I was in cafe Nero a couple of weeks back feeling really really shit. More depression related than anxiety, but that’s not important. There was a Barista in there who obviously has a history of self harm, and just as I was leaving the toilets on my way out (perhaps a touch too much detail) I bumped into her and blurted out “I’m really sorry but I think you e had mental issues and I’m having a really shit time at the moment and do you have 5 minutes?” And you know what? She did. We had a chat, swapped numbers and once in a while she texts to see if I’m ok. If I go into her branch and she can get even a minute. She will come and say “hello”. Sometimes, human beings can be fucking awesome. And I’m not going to apologise for any of the swearing,because sometimes it’s needed for emphasis. Well done again Claire.

  4. You did so well going there! Must be so proud of yourself. I could only dream of going somewhere like that. Incredible.

  5. SO BRAVE !! 😀 You can be really, really proud of yourself !! ´I got very emotional (big surprise) when I read this post, because you’ve named it. The thing about panic is that it is really agressive and the tiger often jumps at you from out of nowhere !! I’ll be thinking of how brave you were that evening when I am flying to the Netherlands in a few dayss ALONE and making my way from the airport to where I’m going to stay. ALONE, in a foreign country. :O but I can do this !!

Trackbacks

  1. What do we say to the God of death? | wE'Re AlL mAd HeRe

Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out / Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out / Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out / Change )

Google+ photo

You are commenting using your Google+ account. Log Out / Change )

Connecting to %s